All that glitters is gold, at least in the fashion world. But then again, it isn’t!
Thanks to my wonderful sister & her fashion label ‘Dor‘, I got a chance to visit the Indian Bridal Fashion Week 2013. Anybody who knows the least bit about India would tell you, there’s no better business than the wedding business. No wonder, all the high profile designers (no matter what their aspirations or interests) delve into Bridal wear – ’cause that’s where the moolah is.
Now I’m not someone who’d give an arm and leg to follow fashion trends, but getting an opportunity to watch the Rohit Bal (one of India’s leading designers) show was too tempting to let go. Well, the excitement and euphoria of doing so, lasted for all of 20-30 minutes; post which you started to see beyond the facade.
Once inside the crowded (with people without the passes wanting to get in) gates, the initial brouhaha died down pretty quickly as ‘fake-ness’ was all I encountered. Everybody, in their effort to look starkly different from each other, ended up looking alike (the irony!). They spoke the same language, with the same accent and with the same mannerisms.
Huddled in small groups, with wine glasses dangling in their perfectly manicured and delicate hands, the so-called socialites and fashionistas pretended to be engrossed in real conversations, what with their oohs and aahs; but all they cared about was the number of eyes trained on them.
All this got me thinking, how hard and tiring it must be to put up false pretenses! To get up day after day, only to obsess about the way you looked, the food (or lack of it) you ate and the parties you were or weren’t called for. Even making friends would have to be a carefully planned task, as everything depends on the people you’re seen with.
Wouldn’t you get tired if you had to put up a smiling face even when you felt empty inside, had to wear high heels despite your feet hurting like hell (weddings are the only exceptions :P), had to look young even when you felt haggard inside, had to starve when all you wanted was to stuff up with the best food possible? I for one, would lap up the idea of a normal life that constitutes of wrinkles, sadness, smiles, frowns, bad hair days; a life where I wouldn’t have to worry about what people would think if I took off my sandals to sit cross legged in a restaurant. I’d never trade simple and uncomplicated for the glittery and fake.
The jaded looks on the models’ faces, the frustration at having to put up a brave smiling face when a Bollywood starlet (Sonam Kapoor) gets to be the showstopper despite you putting in all the hard work, the chore of having to attend the after parties (when all you wanted was to curl up in bed and watch a movie) just so you could network with the right people; made me realize how much better it is to lead common anonymous lives…REAL lives. Even though you’re not a known or revered face, you still mean the world to those who matter; even though you don’t have the perfect body, you still aren’t criticized for a tiny cellulite spot; even though flashlights aren’t trained on you perpetually, you still sport a real smile when they are.
Moreover the thing about being fake is that after a point, it becomes your reality – one you can never escape from. And that’s why we have lost stars and starlets trying every trick in the book to remain/get back in the limelight because that has become their reality and they don’t know what to make of the world when outside it.
So here’s to all the real people out there – revel in your uniqueness, your awkwardness, your randomness, your desi-ness; because perfect is boring.
- Rohit Bal at India Bridal Fashion Week 2013 (thedelhibride.com)
- Rohit Bal creates a fantasy land on the runway at India Bridal Fashion Week (dailymail.co.uk)
- Sonam Kapoor breaks into sensuous jig for Rohit Bal (vancouverdesi.com)
- JJ VALAYA At India Bridal Fashion Week (fashionmostwanted.com)
- rohit bal ready-to-wear..this time focus on Bridal wear here telling the difference (piczload.com)
- Neha Dhupia turns Gothic bride at India Bridal Fashion Week (vancouverdesi.com)
- India Bridal Fashion Week 2013 (w/gallery) (vancouverdesi.com)